You sound like you are jumping in before knowing TBH.
Cam lift can be easliy checked with the right equip and just removing the rocker covers.
If its worn then fine change it. Its a lot of work.
As for tuning the ECU as far as I am aware thats not possible without changing the chips and even then its a set map, or an aftermarket ECU. So would be interested to know if anybody could actually "hack" into the ECU and change settings, gearbox tuning?
I would suggest you have a talk with these people who say they can, and find out how they will empty your wallet

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J