Hi baron,
I had to think about this one, even had to get the handbook out.
I don't think you are 100% correct in what you say.
To go from D to N can only be done after pressing the release button.
To go from N to D you do not need to press the button.
When I stop at a traffic light I used to just sit with my foot on the brake, but I was told that doing that can cause extra unnecessary wear on the friction bands in the auto-box.
What I do now is when I stop, I press the release and move into N.
You then have a choice of simply keeping your foot on the pedal, or setting the h/brake, (which I only do when it's an obviously long delay e.g. at level crossings)
To set off again you just need to knock the lever back into D - no need to press the release button.
I do this so subconsciously & unthinkingly after 95K miles of using this Jatco box that I had to really think about it.
Hope that helps.
Caio,
Singvogel.

[Thanks for the info i knew you would know the answer for me the book is not that clear by my book it reads the opposite way which i could not understand as the lever wood not move thanks again]