Coupla things, the grind into third is a really common problem and just means the syncromesh into the gear is on its way out. You can try adapting your driving style slightly to change into the gear in almost 2 moves, one out of the previous gear and another out of neutral into third. If going from 2nd to 3rd try and keep your foot in exactly the same position on the gas when you change, ie don't lift off, and if going from 4th to 3rd give it a bit extra, just to make the syncro have to work less hard. Also make sure you have the correct oil in there (VERY important!!!) and the right level, i pretty much managed to stop mine from doing this just by reducing the oil level to the right amount, so it is kinda touchy!