I am a fairly newish newbie

and have to disagree with you...these forums are not a waste of time. I looked at the thread you were contributing to and it seems like a bad intro and question led to teasing then got nasty.
Though not everyone's cup of tea, there is a sticky which clearly stipulates that the guys here tease and joke a lot and if you can't handle that, then do not join.
I am not saying that it's ok to be teased or not....I personally joke a lot but help as much as I can.
Some guys do post in some threads just to tease and joke but at the end if the day you will get your answers.
I might have something to say to someone but it ends there, we could be in another thread and you can't tell we had a run in a few mins ago, don't hold grudge and do not believe in enemies unless they fight to be one.
Don't bash the forums because of a single thread that went haywire, I am sure you will have a lot more to benefit from than running away.
Cheers Mate and hang in.