I think it is wonderful that you guys are so aware and sympathetic to this awful illness. Two years ago next month, my wife woke in the morning and ran into a bedroom corner screaming: she had just discovered she was in bed with a strange man - me! We had been married then for forty six years.
It took a number if hours of screaming and hysteria, during which I managed to get my sister-in-law here and it all calmed down. It was frightening and indicated a life to come. Last night she woke up screaming and crying that I was starving her and she didn't have a house or anywhere to live at her late stage in life. I calmed that and then she realises that it was mostly nightmare and bad dreams and she is so sad at what she accused me of.
It's not her fault. Your best friend for decades disintegrates in front of you and you are helpless.
Sorry for going on and on but I have a few moments while she sleeps and my mood sort of matches the weather.
BUT: I get asked on LZ about my situation and about how my wife is. I get asked by LZ'ers who do not know me, have never met me but yet have an instinct of humanity. Three close friends have totally dropped us. Two were a couple who spent free holidays with us in France, and were fed and watered by my missus; one was an Engishman, a single man who lived in France 20 miles from us who my wife gave lunch or dinner to every week. He now lives in the UK 30 miles from us and has totally cut us off. We did his UK shopping for him, nothing was too much.
So thank LZ for your kindness and thoughts to those who have a problem. I don't do sentimentality too much but I know a caring person when I hear from one.
